From the 2006 SSQQ Halloween Party
with Liana Waldberg
My friend Tim Green passed away
on Wednesday, January 30, after a lengthy fight with cancer.
Including Austella and John
Jones, we have now lost three members of our community to
this dread disease in the past year.
Unlike Austella's ordeal, I witnessed Tim's fight
first-hand. He and his girlfriend were all set to go on the
2007 Conquest Cruise last summer
when he got sick and had to cancel.
He would only have six months to live.
Amazingly, despite how sick he was, Tim
spent practically every one of his last weeks on earth here
at SSQQ. Although he skipped the cruise, Tim
continued to take classes throughout last fall.
He had to be one of the toughest men I
have ever met. Tim never said a single word
about his sickness. He refused to
accept any sympathy.
One day I noticed he had lost some weight. Like a moron, I
remember going up to Tim and complimenting him on how
handsome he looked after dropping the weight. Tim smiled and
thanked me for noticing. How bizarre is that?
Then Tim began to sit on the couch for long periods during
dance class. That's when I finally snapped to the painful
realization that something was wrong.
I asked his girlfriend Liana what
the story was. Liana frowned and
explained that Tim had asked her not to say a word. Out of
respect for Tim, I didn't ask again. But I could see
whatever he had was serious.
When Tim appeared at our 2007 Halloween Party, he was so
gaunt that I wanted to cry. This man was so tough, he
still wouldn't say a word!
Tim had to be in so much
pain, but he didn't want to hear a
single word of sympathy. It broke my heart.
Finally in late December, I couldn't help myself, so
I asked again. This time I got a straight answer from Tim's
friend Liana - esophageal cancer.
No wonder the poor man had lost so much weight. He could
In late January 2008 I got word
that the cancer had spread. This
meant Tim had begun the morbid countdown. One week
later and he was gone.
Over the past few years, I got to know Tim better than most
of the students here. In addition to Tim, I had the
privilege of meeting his mother-in-law Mary Gillespie and
his vivacious daughter Morgan, age 17. Tim's daughter
Morgan was so special that I knew
he had to be a great Dad.
Tim was an exceptionally intelligent man. Believe it or not,
he had just gotten his law degree not long before he fell
sick. A couple years ago, Tim was very helpful to me in my
struggles with my studio landlord. Tim was the kind of man
who was the best of the best - kind, sensitive to others,
quick-witted, a very giving man. Tim will be remembered by a
lot of people here at SSQQ because he was a big part of this
studio for a long time. I know I will miss him very much.